I will get back to my blogging very soon. We are here and kicking still, just trying to get more accomplished as Daddy has a little more free time to help with the boys. This time of year is tough on me at times. It is summer, so things are slower for us 'technically' speaking because there aren't folks coming and going every other day, but this is the time of year when all my work gets taken care of (or is supposed to) that I can't do the rest of the year. Some of it is projects for me that I've been wanting to do, but a lot of it is work-related computer stuff. So I tend to go on a bit of a 'I don't want to see my computer' kick on and off quite a bit :)
Off my detour now... Dallas and I are going through a bit of a rough patch with our little angels these days. I know a lot of their frustration is probably from boredom. I could go on and on with excuses, but the fact is that it is very hard and tiring to keep 2 little dudes, 100% entertained and happy 24-7, 365. Any mommies, daddies or caregivers out there surely know this all too well. My frustration comes in when I see the behavior that I really don't like, but I am totally clueless as to the best way to approach it. And my problem is that when I get overwhelmed or stressed, I yell. It's not fun for anyone when mommy's not happy. I'm not proud to admit this by any means, but I really want to get passed this.
I want to teach my children about the Lord and how to pray and how to be devoted to Christ. I want to teach them how to be good, well-behaved boys that stand out in the crowds of today's standards. I want to teach them in a tender, loving, gentle manner. I want to change my temperament and reaction to things that bother me. I want to be a mommy that they love and respect and trust. I love them sooooo much! It breaks my heart when I look at their photos or see them sleeping so peacefully on the video monitor and I know a few hours ago we were fighting about something.
All you mommy's out there... any good resources that are 'treasured secrets'...please pass them on :) I'm working on a 'Behavior/Schedule Chart' that incorporates lots of little things and activities with choices for them to make and 'points' they can earn (or lose) and trying to get this organized. Anyone have experience (good or bad with this)? I'm all ears :)
I cherish you all and love to hear your comments and read your own blogs. Thanks for 'listening'.
2 comments:
You may not want my advice or suggestions, but here's a tip - REALLY turn them over to God (this is not easy) and ask for His help... When setting boundaries, give them options instead of completely saying no. This can teach them to make good decisions and learn how to cooperate and compromise with others! However, remember - we all think differently and that is what makes us unique. You will not always see eye-to-eye but can teach each other to value what is important from each others view :0)
Children want boundaries and NEED it so, try being flexible when it protects them from harm and be firm when it is necessary. When I raise my voice, it usually causes the recipient to respond likewise - no body enjoys being yelled out, it just adds fuel to the fire!!!
Love and prayers - Mom
OH I totally understand! I yell when I get frustrated with my kids, too. Now, I have noticed that my kids also yell when they get frustrated. I am not happy to have handed this down. I am really working on it and I talk a lot with my kids about it. If I've had a bad yelling bout, I will go and talk to the kids afterwards and say I'm sorry and talk about how I am trying to be better and control my actions. I use my weakness as a teaching tool and try to help them see that I have to work hard to try and improve myself. And yes, definitely pray.
There have been many times that my kids have humbled me in an instant when they say something like "Jesus doesn't like it when you talk like that." Some of my friends say that would make them even more angry, but for me it pulls me back to earth and helps me to immediately change the way I'm dealing with things.
I REALLY struggled when my thyroid dosage was wrong. I was yelling EVERY DAY. Thankfully things are much better now. I think one thing that helps is to just let the little things go.
You are not alone in your struggles! And you are STILL a good mom in spite of it!
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